A victim of pride
Pride causes you to see yourself as the victim. You think, “I was mistreated and my actions, misconstrued; so I’m justified in my behavior.” Because you believe you’re innocent and falsely accused, you hold back forgiveness. Even though your true heart’s condition is hidden from you, it’s not hidden from God. Just because you were mistreated, you don’t have permission to hold on to an offense.
And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will. 2 Timothy 2:24-26 (NIV, 2011)
Two wrongs don’t make a right.